The love landscape were simpler decades ago, where there was a social contract, you would court and marry your partner, and that's it. The cultural paradigm shift and laissez faire nature of relationships have completely unlocked that, that’s an added responsibility for you. Your parents don't know about relationships and would neither teach you the ways, so I John Victor am here to guide you to your desired relationship experience. I'm gonna teach how to systematize relationships and based on what you actually want from a relationship, you, yourself with this knowledge will know exactly how to understand it and how to pursue your desired love life. Understand, customize and architecture, and be happy.

What Exactly Do You Want From A Relationship?

The first step is to face it how you face any facet of your life: finance, business, and personal wellness, you need to architecture and define detail by detail what you want. Be honest with yourself: What is the kind of relationship you want? Define every facet of it: Marriage, just roommates, what it is like, very romantic, very practical, dream, draft, be unrealistic if you have you but try to define exactly what you want, write a piece of text of how your relationship is like so you internalize exactly what you want, visualize and make a board if you have to, just like any goal you need to know what you want.

How are the finances?

How is the kind of love you receive? Very romantic, love dovey, cuddling, friendship, rule based, domination and submission, passion based, pragmatic love in doing, exciting, consistent, etc… what is the kind of love you receive?

How is the kind of love you give?

How is the relationship like? Madly obsessed with each other, ordinary relationship based on complicity, rule based, excitement based, friendship based or best friends.

What You Need To Do To Accomplish The Love You Desire

Now you need to architecture a series of actions that you need to take to reach for the mate that you want. Do you need to use dating apps? What kind of dating apps you need to use? Clearly outline your branding and stick to it in your presentation. Are there other websites that offer your kind of objectives, be it tradicional, sugar baby, Dom/Sub, religious, high profile, etc…? Should you reach out for potential mates you already know personally or from friends and pursue a solid relationship with them? Should you start reaching for leads from your reach that fulfills your relationship goals? Start reaching for it. Should you frequent different places than what you do now to reach more appropriate mates? Business settings, high profile reunions, certain communities, online groups, etc… Start positioning yourself in the right places to attract the right kind of mates.

About yourself you need to start customizing your branding to attract and please this kind of mate that you desire: How do you have to dress, behave yourself, your demeanor, how you need to talk, how can you tweak your personality to better present yourself self to this person, etc…

Be Strategic, Be Smart

To have a relationship you need to treat it as a business, or making friends. It's a skill it's a task that need your architecturing and expertise, be proactive, you have already drafted what you want, and the actions you need to take to get the relationship you like, you just need to attract your love.

For Females: You need to seduce, retain attention and get commitment.

Seduce your potential mate so that the mate start talking and take interest in you or be proactive and talk to your mate and try to enchant the mate with your allure, try to lead your mate to be seduced and get him to seek your vetting and approval, this is the first step, seducing. Then when he is invested in you, you need to retain and that depends on your relationship goals, that might mean cultivate a friendship, introduce him to bdsm or your idea of relationship, sugar baby, romance. Always steer the relationship when the direction of it is not in line with your ideal relationship. You can use push and pull, depending on your mate personally only use pushing when the relationship needs emotional space and then pull again when it needs emotional reunion, don't play games and avoid making your partner feel neglected.

Then you need to get your partner to commit, that depends on your ideal relationship and it might mean hookup, dating, marriage, getting into your mode of relationship, etc… To get your partner to commit, there are certain techniques. Like presenting the ideal relationship to your mate and getting them involved in the idea, be tactful and be clear, make it seem like a natural direction of your relationship, there are other techniques like making it a condition to being with you that they commit which is not ideal but in some relationships might be necessary, make sure you're both in the same page on the relationship ideals. Since the relationships today have no clear rules, you need to make it clear what your ideal set of rules are: That comes to things like sexual intimacy, roles in the relationship, relationship goals like marrying or else. Make it simple, make it clear, it is true that man are easy to please and like clear communication so avoid relying on hints and make sure you’re both are on the same page. Always zeal for your relationship.

For Males: You need to attract, engage, and get them to yield to your relationship proposal.

Attract by presenting the qualities your partner would find desirable and is part of your personality, take notes of style prefer overdressed if unsure, be well perfumed. You will almost always have to approach your mate and talk to her, as it usually doesn't happen otherwise unless you know her from work, college, friends or family. Be confident, smile when you find something funny or as a playful charm, hold frame as in always tray to maintain your own personality, confidence and sure way of being, try to lead, it's like a dance, have fun. Engage with her, try to get her to invest with you in any way, communicate with her subliminally how a relationship with you would be like sexually, romantically, the places you frequent and the kind of lifestyle you lead. “Pull” her into this ideal, make it exciting, fun and overwhelming. If your ideal relationship is BDSM, romance, best friends, rule based, hookups, whatever it is, introduce her to your “space”, the rules, rewards, experience of it. How most relationships work you need to lead so set the rules with love and attention, enforce mutual respect if it comes to it tell clearly what the negative situation is and make it clear that you don't appreciate it, don't reward “bad” behaviour, always reward “good” behavior and mention it's a reward for the distinctively “good” behaviour your like. Be attentive to her satisfaction, create excitement in the relationship if you need to, that can mean sexually, romantically, different experiences, sometimes you need to give her a space when you sense you're being too much, that means less interactions it's normal sometimes and if you do this is these situations you would be surprised to find out she would come back loving you more. Maintain the relationship.